For Women: How to Ignore People Who Think They Are Better Than Others

Has anybody ever made you feel less than? These are toxic people. Just stay away from them. This article shows how to steer yourself away from these people.

Here are a few scenarios:

1) Someone commented badly on your makeup. They straight away said it looked cheap on you although your friends and fiancé always adored the way you decorated your face. Simply rise from your seat, excuse yourself and find another place further away from the toxic person to place yourself again. No need to continue a conversation with this person.

2) Someone started to backbite you on your getup. They might have said, “That’s totally old-fashioned. Look at what I wear. This is the modern trend.” Such obnoxious and totally snobbish people should be dealt with adroitly. Just a simple statement such as, “Everybody likes the way I choose my wardrobe. I don’t see any reason why my getup is not up to the mark.” And then walk away from them without allowing them a second chance to open their mouths.

3) Someone started bragging about how rich they were and how many real estate housing and other properties they owned. You have a simple home with a small family and you are happy. So the toxic person’s bragging doesn’t disarm you rather it irritates you. Put an end to the conversation by saying something offline such as, “How was your day today?”

4) Someone commented on your children that they are far too thin while her children are healthy and fast growing. She started even to lecture you how you should feed your children top variety food and how you should get top ingredients to cook for them. You kind of find her toxic and do not want any more bossing from her. So stop short and tell her, “I know how to take care of my children. They are in good health. Please stop your lectures. They don’t interest me.”

5) Someone started saying her husband was so adorable and caring, taking her to restaurants and always buying her flowers to show his love for her. She attacked you saying your husband was always on business trips and rarely giving time to your family.

But you know you have a good relationship and understanding with your husband. So you might as well say wittily, “I have come to accept my husband’s absence now and then but we have a good understanding. When we are all together, we have a great time going on long drives and spending time in mother nature with the children. When he is not around, I give full attention to my job and children and time goes away so quickly and happily for me that it gets time for my husband’s return soon and we get all united joyously. In fact we are a happy family. Did you think otherwise?”

These are some of the ways some toxic people in your life might show off they are better than you. Just ignore them and stalk away. They are not worth destroying your precious peace of mind.


Accelerated Learning for High Achievers

Most are aware of accelerated weight loss and fitness programs because of common, frequent advertising exposure to such; particularly because an alternative channel is selling discounted, super-sized, fast food meals on Tuesdays after 3 pm. However, with the exception of foreign languages, most people do not hear about general accelerated learning.

Accelerated learning and skills development occur regularly with athletes, musicians and other artists committed to performance activities. Unfortunately, most consider high achievers’ intelligence (or breadth and depth of knowledge) to be gifts, not outcomes of development. As such, most do not consider “learning” to be a skill, something that one can enrich and nurture, with the expectation of improvement. Instead, most engage in the activity of learning as if it were always “performance time” without expectation of sharpening the tools before and route to performance.

Moreover, school systems often place students into “tracks” of courses without attempting to modify teaching strategies and student learning skills, except for the very least capable students who receive a “special” education. The worst of systems are essentially saying, “We will present the information in a uniform manner and the students must learn it as they are able. It is not our role to teach them how to learn.”

The information growth curve over the past thirty years has been phenomenal. With the explosive expansion of information content, instructors are very challenged to screen it. As such, students actually are increasingly responsible for their own learning. However, instructors must clearly define objectives, provide multi sensory demonstrations of the materials, and assure that students have high-quality access to the best curated, relevant information and experiential-type resources as they are able to identify. The instructors then act more as guides, directors, coaches, tutors and cooperative participants in the group learning processes (similar to working in a student chemistry lab).

Learning is basically founded upon exposure to a logical presentation of materials, coordination, re-organization, and application of information, leading to lattices of multi-functional data that is progressively and meaningfully arranged for memorization and future use. You put it all together logically, sequentially, a single piece of data at a time. Then, knowledge becomes simply the ability to recall and apply it as needed. As you simply accept this (A→ B →C) “one piece of data at a time” concept, that you have always performed, you simply recognize the requirement for sometimes time-intensive fact acquisition, association-building, and retention. We were not all born with identical anatomy, physiology, and apparent functional strengths. But, over time, the learning process becomes easier, and more efficient, as with any practiced skill.

You may accelerate this process in a couple of ways:

You can incorporate concurrent complementary strategies (A1, A2, A3, A4, A5) → B → C, at any stage in the process. In this example An are alternate ways by which to characterize data A to enhance retention, B represents the application of a variety of memorization techniques and C is the endpoint. You can also better prepare yourself for learning as PE→A→ B →C, where PE in the diagram represents preparing your Preparation and Environment. This refers to adequate nourishment, rest, self-motivation, establishing objectives, gathering your resources, studying in a quiet, non-distracting settings, and engaging in intermittent relaxation as you learn.

Most school systems and teachers have their preferred teaching styles/methods. In public systems, without the obligation to demonstrate high performance in all of their students, materials are often presented in whatever manner is most expedient, frequently via efficient lectures and moderate homework assignments. You need to enhance the learning experience by exposure to more nuances of the materials. Any one of these multiple information facets or perspectives (An) may be the one that stimulates the individual learner.

As an example, “Why is the NCAA D1 level college football training approach so successful at creating professionals?” Teams apply the following: team members are provided play-books, they watch film, they are verbally instructed by coaches, they perform strength and conditioning exercise, they practice physical game skills and plays/strategies on the field, and they eat (well) and live together to increase team member familiarity and bonding. The football team engages every physical and mental sense, and psychological tool, robustly and repeatedly, to reinforce knowledge, skills and the ability to execute all spontaneously and under duress. Moreover, unlike the instructor who teaches a class with an expectation of yielding a bell-curve performance from the students, the football coaches recognize that half of the team cannot underperform. Rather, the entire team must perform not only competently, but superiorly in the interest of winning, as well as for scholarship and job retention for all. There is baseline ability magnified by intent, strategy, assistance, and incentive.

The NCAA regularly demonstrates that intensive, immersion type, holistic training for the understanding of concepts, facts, and practicing skills can deliver high-performance athletes. If the same approach is applied to general academic subjects you will see more Heisman trophy equivalent academic performances in all students. As well, you will see more “instructor of the year” performances by teaching staff. There are real barriers, aside from institutional financial status. How do you overcome the adverse influences of union mentalities, tenure-sustained apathy, social biases, environmental disincentives, and the lack of immediate incentives particularly for socioeconomically disadvantaged students who are always asked to live with promises of delayed gratification while others are rewarded (or paid) no matter how the students perform? As a topic beyond this tome, you address these challenges as you are able, at least not failing to acknowledge their existence.

Accelerated learning for the high academic achiever is not based upon accelerated presentation of materials and voluminous assignments. Accelerated learning strategy utilization is the regular application of comprehensive, enhanced learning strategies, reinforced by a holistic, “all in by all” commitment to succeed. There are many opinions regarding the optimal technologies to accompany this approach. And, the larger, as well as more socially and academic-skills diverse the participants, the more challenging it is to pace a class. However, to the best of its component capabilities, the strategist should assure that all students have the resources to engage the learning techniques. Moreover, parents, guardians and the community must understand the objectives, with the school becoming a center for excellence.

Accelerated learning is a perspective, an attitude, a toolbox, a set of strategies for effective, efficient, holistic, generous, and needs-sensitive application, with recognition of individualized paths to the most prolific outcomes.